Dramatically Improve Your Sales With This Magically Worded Question

Using the wrong words (even when asking the right question) can lead you to false assumptions and adversely affect your next appointment. Follow this example to elevate your sales results.

Question: a linguistic expression used to make a request for information.

In professional selling, word choice is extremely important… if you want to succeed. Prepare your questions in advance and then scrutinize them to ensure they are clear, succinct and non-threatening.

Here is an example of a question salespeople ask a lot, but they use the wrong words:

  • Are you the decision-maker?

Here are a few more examples of how NOT to ask this question:

  • Are you the one making the decision?
  • Who is making the decision?
  • Who else is making the decision?
  • Will you be making the final decision?

Why is asking this question with these words wrong? In most cases, the answer you receive from your contact is either Yes or I am. In both cases, there is a lot of room for misinterpretation because information is either omitted by your contact and/or assumed by you.

A contact (who is not the decision-maker) can respond to “Are you the decision-maker?” with either Yes or I am.

Here’s what they really mean:

  • I will select three proposals from all who submitted and send them to my boss who will make the final decision.
  • I will not participate in any way with the decision, but I don’t want you to know that.
  • I will be involved during the decision-making meetings, but will have little or no input in the decision.

Motivation Behind the Response

So, why would a contact that is not the decision-maker lead you to believe they have more decision-making status than they do? Because people want to be important. Not assuming that there is a sinister motive, here are several reasons why:

  • I do not want to be perceived as irrelevant.
  • I want to control as much information as possible.
  • I want to appear important to my boss.
  • I enjoy the feeling of salespeople accommodating me.
  • I enjoy the status of being involved with important decisions.
  • I want to do a good job by reducing the amount of detailed work for my boss.

A better way to ask the question is this way:

Who else is participating with you in making this decision?

It’s inclusive.
It makes them feel included in the decision making process. It does not alienate your contact and compel them to omit information or give a false impression.

It does not threaten their need to be important.
The language assumes that they will (in some way) be involved in the decision – even if that means they simply pass your name or proposal along to their boss.

It means they are free to tell you who is making the decision – and save face.
Contacts are far more comfortable sharing information if there is no threat that you will brush them to the side for more important people.

Again, word choice is vital to sales success. Always write your questions in advance of a sales call whenever possible and edit them for clarity and inclusiveness.